All the couples therapy and communication seminars in the world won't save you if you aren't prepared to close your eyes and hug the mainmast through a storm.

— Ada Calhoun

As married people, we dwell on a spectrum between happy and unhappy, in love and out of love, and we move back and forth on that line decade by decade, year by year, week by week, even hour by hour.

— Ada Calhoun

By staying married, we give something to ourselves and to others: hope. Hope that in steadfastly loving someone, we ourselves, for all our faults, will be loved; that the broken world will be made whole. To hitch your rickety wagon to the flickering star of another fallible human being -- what an insane thing to do. What a burden, and what a gift.

— Ada Calhoun

Dating is poetry. Marriage is a novel. There are times, maybe years, that are all exposition.

— Ada Calhoun

...even good marriages sometimes involve flinging a remote control at the wall.

— Ada Calhoun

Failure is part of being human, and it is definitely part of being married.

— Ada Calhoun

Forsaking all others means going deep with one person -- exhausting deep.

— Ada Calhoun

I want to say that at various points in your marriage, may it last forever, you will look at this person and feel only rage.

— Ada Calhoun

People who don't marry miss both the pelting hardships of marriage and its warm rewards.

— Ada Calhoun

(Personally, I have avoided many fights by going to bed angry and waking up to realize that I'd just been tired.)

— Ada Calhoun