All the years I spent trying to be someone you could be proud of would have been better spent being proud of myself for who I already was.

— Paula Heller Garland

And my heart is breaking My heart is lying on the floor in a pool of tears keep asking the same questions only to have them unanswered

— Paula Heller Garland

As I was standing in my kitchen cooking yesterday, a quiet task that causes my mind to begin reminiscing (similar to washing dishes, cleaning the bathrooms and mowing), I reached for the kitchen scissors and off I went. Kitchen scissors. Who knew there were special scissors to cut food items? Mom did.

— Paula Heller Garland

Don't beg a man to keep you. If he isn't sure you are the right one make the decision for yourself. You deserve better than maybe.

— Paula Heller Garland

Don't forget to pause and nourish yourself a bit along the way. When you're born to help others sometimes you forget to help yourself.

— Paula Heller Garland

Hurting the person who hurt you won't heal your pain. Let them go. Karma will deal with them, you don't have to write the script for the universe.

— Paula Heller Garland

I call my it "the Book of Paula" or Bop for short. Those are my own opinions, based on experience.

— Paula Heller Garland

I don't know the perfect thing to say when a person is hurting, but I do know the last thing they want to hear are reasons they shouldn't be hurting.

— Paula Heller Garland

I had to ask myself why I'm continuing to engage in behavior I knew hurt. What was my payoff? Did it confirm my belief I was not enough? Did I think I needed to suffer? Did I think I could save him? Why not save myself instead? What a miserable realization that I knew all of this yet failed to take action.

— Paula Heller Garland

I lit the candles and said out loud, “what am I waiting on? Someone to sell them in a garage sale for a quarter after I die?” And it was beautiful. And the smell was even more incredible than I remembered.

— Paula Heller Garland